Monday, July 18, 2011

Hopeful..perhaps the tides are changing

Just a quick update this morning as I am feeling hopeful that things may be changing soon for my son and his girlfriend. After J's few days in jail a couple of weeks ago, his girlfriend was arrested for the first time and also just spent a few days in jail last weekend. Her case is being handled by an alternative court that deals mostly with homeless addicted souls. This court is apparently offering her inpatient rehab and for the first time in a long time I am feeling some hope for them.

I spoke with my son yesterday and he is encouraging her to go and take the help available to her. In the meantime he is trying to get all his court stuff sent to drug court and looking at an option to get help himself. Instead of trying to beat the system it sounds like he is much more humble now. They are so stuck and dependent on each other for survival. He has been much more in contact with us and his sister these last couple of weeks.

He continuously says he knows things have to change, they can't keep doing what they are doing - in fact he can't believe they have made it this long. He is going to be on some kind of drug probation and he knows he can't do it himself now and is hoping they both have a court ordered way to go to treatment at the same time.

If there was ever the time for doors to open in that direction - this may be it.

Please keep them in your prayers. I don't want to get ahead of myself but hope is a great thing.


  1. It can happen. We surprised both my son and his codependent heroin-addict girlfriend with an intervention. They had been living together about a year and reluctantly agreed to work on their own recovery at 2 separate treatment centers. My stipulation was NO contact with each other until I felt they were ready.

    Both have started on their individual roads. My son has confessed that during his addiction, some days he would wake up "so done" and she would have him looking for money and drugs right away. Other mornings it was reversed and he was in the car and ready to go while she was so sick and tired of being drug sick. Either way - they were bad together. We knew it - they just didn't.

    My story is by no means a perfect tale, as both son and girlfriend are struggling separately. But I just wanted to confirm that their recovery can start and they have a fighting chance once they separate... Trying to send some hope your way.