An Addict In Our Son’s Bedroom: Parents and Recovery:
Here is the bullet points for us parents to keep in mind.
- Recovery is hard. Sometimes they need a hand, make sure your hand is out for them to grasp when needed. But, don’t hold on too long.
- Addicts dig deep holes for themselves. Contrary to what you may think filling the hole is faster when only one person has a shovel. If you help to shovel it will take longer to fill the hole.
- Forgiveness is for me. The sooner I understand the faster I heal.
- “Believe” or “doubt”. I choose believe. Have you ever had someone tell you that they believe in you?
- Normal is right. “Fragile, Handle with Care” is not stamped in big red letters on a child in recovery. To stop using means they want a normal life again.
- I love you. That is a reassurance we ALL need.
- Nagging, suspicious looks and reminders of past mistakes really irritate me. Addicts in recovery probably don’t need them either.
- His recovery is his to manage. I know that for the last seven years he hasn’t been able to manage ANYTHING. But, we all have to learn and begin someplace.